BMW - BULGY MOMENT WITHDRAWAL

BMW - BULGY MOMENT WITHDRAWAL! 

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"We will see and experience in the world what we have accumulated in our mind consciously or unconsciously. Please, understand that what we take to be our world with all its difficult relations and troubles, is nothing but the making of our own by the mind!"

We must learn the difference between reaction and response. Response is an action taken consciously, withdrawing ourselves into ourselves for a moment and then reciprocating, like the bow & arrow. Bow and arrow is a special weapon which cannot be used as Mace or Sword. It needs positioning, placing, pointing & importantly withdrawing backward & then releasing..! Releasing the bulgy feeling for a moment by withdrawing ourselves from the situation & beings is called BMW - BULGY MOMENT WITHDRAWAL & then reciprocating is called Response!

For example...

~When we toast the bread, if it burns, we can react by fuming, hitting the counter, feeling irritated and put in another piece of bread -->Reaction....or we can breathe deeply and place another bread with ease -->Response.

~When someone cuts us off in traffic, we can angrily retaliate by racing up to them shouting, abusing, trying to get back at them --> Reaction... or we can let go of the person & drive peacefully towards our destination --> Response.

....Please choose, to Respond! Becos..Reaction reinforce the pain & hurt. Reaction makes us feel guilt. Reaction breaks the heart & damages the efficiency of the brain.

When we are criticized, when we are betrayed, when we are misunderstood, when we are exploited, when we are taken for granted...why are we reinforcing the pain of the situation by adding to the pain with our Reaction? Please choose, to respond!

It’s like two arrows, the Buddha said, the first arrow is the initial event itself, the painful experience. It has happened; we cannot avoid it. The second arrow is the one we shoot on ourselves, into ourselves; This arrow is optional. We can either add to the initial pain with a contracted, angry, rigid, frightened state of mind or we can learn to experience the same painful event with less identification and aversion and with a more relaxed and compassionate heart. Please choose, to Respond!

Does this mean that we don't take responsibility of executing the Right? 

Does this mean that we cannot respond strongly?

If we Respond strongly, Does this mean that we are not accepting & accommodating?